Category Archives: Partnering

In case you were wondering, I haven’t abandoned this blog. I’ve been a bit busy…first with the Jewish High Holy Days and then with my second ACL surgery in 14 years. Yes…that fall down the stairs in New York ended me up under the orthopedic surgeon’s knife on September 29th (after a preliminary visit to Julian’s sports specialist and an MRI). I’ve been slowly recovering…more slowly than most ACL surgery patients since I had to have both the previous screws that were placed into my knee before (and the previous graft) removed before they could put in the new ones.

Anyway, life goes on in the “dance lane.” I’ve been home nursing myself back to health. I took a week off and then began doing a bit of work here and there. Then this week a big storm his Northern CA, our first of the season (a bit early), and that knocked our power out for three days. Oops. Time off for me…nice especially since I was coming down with whatever virus or flu my daughter was spreading around with her cough.

As for Julian, he’s, of course, dancing up a storm. Things are going well at TDC. He’s working really hard–still drawing on that NYC energy. He’s in all the pieces of choreography this year so far, although one choreographer probably won’t use him since he has to miss one of her sessions for a Nutcracker performance. Nutcracker is going really well. He’s very excited that he chose to once again do the San Jose Dance Theater production, since as the prince he is getting to do some great partnering. This is something really missing in his normal year-r0und training. He is also getting a few solos with some “guy” stuff thrown in. Additionally, quite a number of Sunday rehearsals are attended by Maximo Califano from Ballet San Jose, which means Julian gets somewhat of a private lesson with a male ballet dancer. He’s worked on an awesome lift last weekend, but Maximo wasn’t there to help; Julian hopes he’ll be there this weekend. Choreographer Marcie Ryken saw the lift in a Ballet San Jose production recently.

Julian is really enjoying the choreography track at TDC this year. It’s the first time he’s tried choreographing for others…or for himself really. I think the girls are really working hard doing very physical choreography–things Julian would choose to do himself. So far, however, his teachers have been happy with the progress he’s made and with the piece itself. I’ll write more about the process another time.

Other than that, Julian is doing better in school. He started out with a bang and recently lost his focus. I think a bit of being grounded has helped him regain that! He has a girlfriend now, and he has become somewhat “popular,” even hanging out with some popular jocks at the school. So, he feels he has turned a corner when it comes to his social life. However, he was sad to discover that his little group (just two girls really) ditched him at the beginning of the year. I think that propelled him into some other groups, though, and even some kids who really disliked him before are beginning to like him.

I chalk all of this up to this past summer in NYC and at American Ballet Theatre (and at Broadway Dance  Center). I think the level of confidence he developed and the degree of determination with which he returned made a huge difference in how he saw himself and how others saw him. When he was clear (or clearer) about who he was and where he was going, I think his energy changed and people started treating him differently. Not that he didn’t know this before, but his commitment was different. And they felt that.

So, all in all…things are going well in the dance lane, I’d say. I promise I’ll try to get another guest blog post up soon. I still have to transcribe my interview with Denise Wall…but I will, I promise!

Since I haven’t had a moment to even think about transcribing the tape of my interview with Denise Wall, I thought I’d try to at least write a post this week that would be useful to someone — that someone being parents and boys (and girls) going to a summer ballet intensive (American Ballet Theatre in particular) next year. So, here goes.

1. Housing may not be too important for the dancer, who is only there in the evening and on weekends, but for the parent who spends much of their time in there, it’s everything to the experience. Now, some parents just cut out every morning after dropping the child off and go shopping or to the theater or otherwise amuse themselves. For these people, maybe the apartment isn’t too big a deal. However, I spent everyday in the apartment working. I regretted skimping in this area. Next year, I will spend a bit more, if need be, to get a place with decent AC, a microwave, an well-outfitted kitchen, cable TV, high-speed Internet, and more space.

2. Be prepared for the weather. It was surprisingly cold in New York City the first two weeks. We needed jackets  then and umbrellas almost the whole time. Prepare for everything…

3.  Bring supplements and nutritional products to address the dancers’ needs for electrolytes and overuse injuries. Even those first few weeks, the days got hot in the afternoon, and Julian ended up with heat stroke. Yes, he got dehydrated despite the humidity in New York. (In dry climates, you are warned to watch for this, but in humid climates where you sweat a lot it’s just as easy to dehydrate.)

Be sure to have water bottles and packets of electrolytes or some type of sports drink, preferably with not much sugar added. (I had to give in and let Julian drink Gatorade, despite it’s high sugar content, because at least I knew he would drink lots of that during the day.)

There are supplement that help you avoid overuse injuries and inflammation in the body. Do your research or watch for an upcoming post (by moi) on these products and take lots and lots of them to help your body deal with the immense amount of physical stress placed upon it during the intensive. Also, ice anything that is sore or twisted; don’t use a bag of ice if the sore place fits in a bucket of ice water. Ice water is by far the better choice.

4. Use the program’s physical therapist for any and all soreness or injuries. It lessens the time the dancer is injured tremendously.

5. Be careful about how much walking and extra dancing you do outside of the intensive. Julian and I did 30 minutes of walking a day, to and from ABT. We also walked a lot on Saturdays and a little on Sundays. He took some tap classes on Saturdays and once during the week during the first four or five weeks, because tap didn’t strain his body in the same way as additional ballet, jazz, lyrical, modern, or hip hop classes, thus possibly causing overuse injuries. We added in a little jazz  and hip hop the last two weeks when he was feeling strong, but never more than one class during the week and two on Saturday. Always take one day off; give your body a chance to rest.

We know some people who didn’t do this. The son ended up with an overuse injury at one point from walking everywhere all the time and dancing 7 days a week.

6. Allow your son to spend time with new friends. Don’t be surprised if they aren’t as good about keeping in touch afterwards as he thinks they will be or they say they will be. Prepare him…

7. have your son get a lot of sleep.

8. Get to the studio early, so your son has  time to change, stretch and generally prepare for class. At ABT NY, a line forms outside the building quite early, because the kids aren’t allowed inside until 8:30 a.m. on the dot. (Classes start at 9:00 a.m.) Those who like to get upstairs (They walk up three flights; they aren’t allowed to use the elevator.) and have lots of time to prepare, get there early…very early. However, if the kids show up “late” (8:45 or 8:50 a.m.), it’s clear sailing up the stairs with no line at all. It’s their choice. Wait in line. Don’t wait in line. They’ll still be on time for class if they can be changed and in the studio in 10 or 15 minutes.

9. Don’t expect to ever see the inside of an ABT studio except on parent-observation day.

10. Be prepared to allow your child to have some freedom, even if they are in New York City. Most of the kids like to go out to eat together — even the younger ones. I told Julian he had to have a buddy at all times, and the “buddy rule” seems to be an existing unspoken rule for most of the kids (especially those staying in the dorms without chaperones) — unless they live or around the city. He went out to lunch a lot, sometimes just joining others even when I had packed a lunch. He even rode the subway with the other kids up to their rehearsal for their final performance and back. However, he ended up walking back to Union Square by himself when his buddy dropped him off at a subway stop and continued on his way (by subway). I, of course, didn’t discover this until much later.

11. Realize that this is the best experience your young male dancer may have had up to this point in their career. Being in a room with other phenomenally good young male dancers brings out the best in them — or it did in Julian. It makes them work hard. It allows them to work together. It gives them a chance to learn from each other and to teach each other. It allows their abilities to improve faster than they ever have before.  They get a chance to compare their work ethic to that of other boys their age and at their level. Plus, they get more opportunities to practice (or learn) partnering than ever before.

If you, as a parent, are wondering if you should spend the money (and the time) sending your son to a summer intensive (and chaperoning him), they answer is “yes.” Take a second mortgage on your house if need be. I think the experience was life changing for Julian. I wouldn’t change a thing about going (except the apartment we rented  and tearing my ACL when I twisted my knee on the stairs to that apartment). And we’ll go again next summer if they’ll have us…even if I have to borrow the money or charge the whole thing.

12. Take a little extra time if you are in New York to allow your son to take classes at the other amazing studios, like Alvin Ailey, Steps on Broadway (although we didn’t make it there…) and Broadway Dance Center. Going to Broadway Dance Center for a full five days was a superb experience for Julian. He had taken classes there once or twice a week the whole time he was at ABT, but being there every day for 5-7 hours with all those amazing dancers and teachers also pushed him to his physical limits and changed his perspective on his own dancing ability and goals. In fact, every class he takes now seems easy since then (one negative). He misses the challenge of those classes and instructors, and the energy of being in a room packed full of people hungry for dance.  So, stay longer, and take advantage of all that New York has to offer. Your son won’t regret it. It’s a superb investment.

13. Have fun. Splurge. Go to some shows. Stay out late. You never know if you’ll have the opportunity again to live and play in the city that never sleeps. So, don’t sleep your time away. contribute to its name.

14. Enjoy your time with your son. I think being in New York with Julian changed our relationship immensely. We are closer now, and we understand each other better. We get along better. A bonding happened in that little studio apartment, as well as at the shows and on the subways and at the dance classes, that never would have happened had we just stayed at home or had he gone off to Jewish camp. So, make the most of being your son’s chaperone. In fact, don’t be his chaperone. Be his mom…be his friend.

At long, long last, I have some really superb advice for all the boys attending summer ballet intensives. Actually, any boy attending any type of summer dance intensive will benefit from the advice offered by ballet great Rasta Thomas.  

I first “discovered” Rasta after I’d actually seen him perform as Eddie in the national tour of  the Twyla Tharp/Bill Joel hit musical Movin Out. I was interviewing Dennis Nahat, artistic director of Ballet San Jose, for my book on mentoring boys who want to become professional dancers, and he suggested I also interview Rasta. He mentioned that while Rasta had not taken his advice and joined a ballet company, he was doing a pretty good job of making a living as a “free agent.” Indeed, he has and still is doing just that. And while he’s gotten more than his share of accolades as a ballet dancer, he does way more than ballet these day–and he encourages other male dancers to do the same. You can see this in the repertoire of his company,  ”Bad Boys of Dance.”

Though a Californian by birth, Rasta spent his early years in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. Trained at the Kirov Academy in Washington DC, under Oleg Vinogradov, Rasta made dance history as the youngest recipient of the Jury Prize at the Paris International Ballet Competition in Washington DC, the Junior Gold Medal at Varna at fifteen and the coveted Senior Gold Medal at the Jackson International Ballet Competition when he was only sixteen.

Appearing as a guest artist with the most prestigious ballet companies throughout the world, Rasta has appeared with the Kirov Ballet in Russia, The Joffrey Ballet in Chicago, the K–Ballet in Japan, Lar Lubovitch, Complexions and American Ballet Theater in New York, Universal Ballet of Korea, Alonzo King’s Lines Contemporary Ballet in San Francisco, and the Beijing Central Ballet in China to name a few.

In 2007 Rasta debuted his own company, Bad Boys of Dance, at Jacob’s Pillow. This dazzling, high energy, all male company combines the best of ballet, Broadway, Tango, and Hip Hop to showcase male virtuosity at its best.  You can read  more about Rasta here.

If anyone knows what boys go through as they make there way in the world as dancers, Rasta does. And if anyone can given them advice about a ballet intensive, Rasta can. So, let’s hear what he has to say.  (I’ve left his comments in a simple Q & A format, so you can really “hear” Rasta speak.)

What is the first thing you would suggest boys do to prepare for a summer intensive, such as those run by American Ballet Theatre or San Francisco Ballet?

They can prepare themselves mentally. The first step is to approach anything new with an open mind. You are going there to learn, and you are going there to be challenged.

If you are willing to spend your “summer vacation” at a ballet intensive, and this isn’t something against your will, you are already far ahead of pack. That shows your determination and your love of what you do in a profession that is quite painful. It shows that you want to prevail and use your body in a way that thrives and lives in you. So, I think the mindset you are in is already appropriate, because you are agreeing to do this summer program and you want to do this summer program.

Beyond that, the next step is to figure out what you are hoping to get out of the summer ballet program. It will be what you predestine the experience to be. If you go there to learn, if you go there to be competitive, that’s what it will be

Also, if you go there looking for insight into your future, you can get a first hand experience of what the next step may be. This will allow you to find early in life what that yellow brick road is for you. That can be very educational. Everyone at the summer program is just a student, but the next step is an apprenticeship and then core and then soloist and then principle.

A summer program allows for an amazing amount of information to be downloaded if you’re open to it. If you go there being shy and bashful, or whatever your inhibitions are, you’ll need to abandon those. You need to say, “I’m here to learn.” Don’t judge yourself. Don’t think you are not good enough even if there is someone better than you. Think, “I’m going learn. I’m here because my parents sacrificed for me, my teachers sacrificed for me, and I sacrificed for myself. This is where I’m supposed to be. If you go into it with the mentality of “I’m going to benefit from this the most I can every single day, and you live, sleep and eat ballet, you will get tenfold more than other people will.

So, that’s the first step: mental preparation.

 

What’s the second step?

Before they go, they must get in the best physical shape they can. Whatever their syllabus or regular routine is, just push it even more. Take twice as many classes. Stretch a little longer.

A lot of times, dance classes don’t prepare you for dance itself. Class is more strength and conditioning training then stretching. I always say, ‘In dance you have to stretch your potential in addition to strengthening your potential.’ There’s a lot that can be done outside the studio. For this reason, I would say stretching, stretching and stretching are the keys. And if you’re flexible already, then spend time strengthening, strengthening and strengthening. If you are somewhere in the middle, then focus on both flexibility and strengthening before you go to the summer program.

Focus on your feet and your legs as well as on the other parts of your body. Know what your weaknesses are as well as your strengths, and specifically practice what you are bad at in preparation for the summer program.

 

Are there specific things that the boys can do in addition to taking class to get in great shape for a summer ballet intensive, such as cross training?

Cross training is a given. Dancers in general need to cross train. The boys have good weather on their side right now, so swimming is a great activity. Tennis and basketball are good. Even jumping rope is good. Jumping rope for 10 minutes a day will do wonders. Practicing variations is good, too. Strengthening, stretching (or flexibility), cardio, and repetition (of whatever the step is, such as a pas de bourrée, passé, or pirouette)—these are the four fundamental things they need to be doing. In terms of repetition, they need to do every step 10,000 hours each. To become good at anything you have to put in 10,000 hours—not consecutively, of course.

 

Since their dance programs might have tapered off by this time of year, which means they might not actually have access to as many dance classes just prior to going to their summer ballet intensive, what else do you suggest boys do to get in shape?

[Rudolf] Nureyev used to take ballet class at the back of the airplane. All you need is a little ledge to hold onto. You don’t even need a perfect surface. Don’t do anything that is going to make you hurt yourself, of course. There is always something you can practice. Do the exercises of the dance syllabus outside of class even if it is just moving your arms and your head. You don’t have to be in a structured class with a teacher giving you exercises. That’s the reason you had ballet class for the whole year—so you can do it without the teacher. You are your best teacher. Pull those things out of classes that you want to improve on, and do them in the living room in front of the mirror. Do relevé at the grocery store in line.

Class may have tapered off, but there are many hours in the day to be used—maybe not to take class but to improve your instrument.


Will boys do more jumping, turning, partnering at a summer intensive?

Definitely.

 

Is there anything they should be doing to prepare for those moves and activities  in particular?

For partnering, it’s always about lifting, so they should be doing push ups, sit ups, handstand push ups, pull ups, leg squats, and any resistance exercises, such as using dumbbells for their biceps and triceps.

For turns and spins, it’s just repetition.

For jumps, you need every muscle in your legs to be strong to jump as high as you can. So, exercise all the different muscles.

 

Are there some particular exercises you would recommend?

You can break down every point of the body and do exercises for strength and flexibility. For the feet and legs in particular, here are a few.

To strengthen the ankle, lie on your back and do 30 circles with your ankle clockwise and counterclockwise. Put your thigh at 90 degrees perpendicular to floor and your shin and foot parallel to floor. Hold knee in place and turn your ankle 30 times in each direction and then move it 30 times like gas pedal up and down.

Stand up and do sets of 16 or 32 relevé and eleve to work your calves. And the same with leg squats. Do this every day and build up to 50. It should hurt every other day. There should be a little soreness and then a little recuperation. Scientifically, you have to damage and injure your muscle for it to grow. If you aren’t sore the next day, you didn’t push hard enough.

Picking up pencil with your toes strengthens the toes [and actually most of the foot]. Use a Coke bottle or Perrier bottle and flex your foot and point your toes, and then roll your toes over and back over the bottle.  Keep the toes pointed the whole time, but flex the ankle. That works the arch.

Sit with your feet under the couch to stretch your feet.

Do your splits every day—two minutes a day in each split. If you can do them already, put a phone book or couch under your front leg.

If you don’t have your splits, take a warm or hot bath. When you get out, put on two pairs of sweats, sock and a hoodie, and stretch while the muscles are warm. Massage as you stretch.  You can also get up against a wall and in a side split straddle. I also used to lie on my back like a frog and put my legs in a double passé position.

 

Not surprisingly, there’s more to this interview than what I’ve posted here. So, keep a look out for Part 2 coming soon, in which Rasta  will advise boys on what they should be doing once they actually arrive at the summer ballet intensive.

Last, but definitely not least, here’s part four to my interview with Duncan Cooper. If you don’t remember who Duncan is, please go back to this post to read the brief bio I offered in the part one.

Working on Flexibility and Weaknesses

Continuing my conversation with Duncan,  I wanted to know if he often saw the kind of flexibility issues with which my son, Julian, struggles. He has tightness in the hips, and can’t get his splits. Of course, he has grown about eight inches since last July, which means his muscles have not caught up to his bones, but he has never been very flexible.

Here’s what Duncan had to say: “Some boys are just naturally flexible…You have to do a lot of stretching. When I was his age [14], I warmed up for 30 minutes to an hour before class in the studio before the class began stretching. After class I would stretched to cool down.

“In dance, if you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And if you don’t use it, you’ll never get it,” he concluded.

In general young male dancers need to know both their strengths and weaknesses and to realize, more often than not, they are presenting their strengths, he added. “But you need to work on your weaknesses. Often a weakness for some boys is flexibility. Some are very flexible. Some are good turners. Some are good jumpers, but they might not have the other two qualities.  To be well rounded in all is better than to be just good at one.” 

In other words, boys must not just focus doing the things that come naturally to them but on the things that don’t. They must practice these weak points until they become strengths.

The Male Mind or Psychological Issues that Affect Boys

When I asked Duncan if he thought boys had any unique psychological issues, he laughed and said, “Yes. Sometimes we joke around that men have shorter attention spans in class than women. Maybe it’s based on a kind of ADD male testosterone issue where they get so much testosterone that sporadically they are all over the place,” he commented. “The tendency is for them to have focusing issues, especially when they are together in groups.”

He went on to add, “Men are often more challenge than women, because they start dancing later then women do.” While they might find it easier to find jobs, because there are so few male dancers, they are often struggling to catch up with their female counterparts, who likely have been dancing longer.

While this engenders a desire to move fast, “going fast” tends to be a “guy thing” in general. I mentioned Julian’s desire to move up the levels at Ballet San Jose School more quickly than he was allowed, and the ballet mistress there, Lise LaCour, not allowing him to do so. Duncan responded that this attitude was not uncommon for boys, and he cautioned, “It’s not about going to the next or another level. It’s not about going through eight levels and you get a new Karate belt. It doesn’t work that way. It’s not about getting a trophy. It’s about becoming an artist.”

Likening this process to wine, he said, “You can’t rush good wine. Wine is going to develop on its own time. It’s the same with an artist.”

Men have to learn more than just how to dance well, and this takes time, too. They have to learn to be good soloists and, as mentioned in previous posts, they have to dance with emotion and be “matinee idols,” which means being great actors. Additionally, they have to possess the ability to be a lead dancer, which means carrying a production, such as a Broadway show, a contemporary piece or a full-length ballet. “For that you have to be a good dancer and a good partner,” said Duncan. “Men are notoriously bad partners.”

That comment led to a logical question: How does a young man become a good partner? “Good male dancers will listen to what their partners need. Each woman needs something different. They’ll also know the women’s choreography. If you know the woman’s part in partnering, you know when to pick her up and when to put her down.  Often guys rush through that. That’s part of the skill of learning not to rush,” Duncan explained.

Making Convention Choreography Your Own – or Not

On a different note altogether, I asked Duncan, who is on the faculty of New York City Dance Alliance, what he wants from convention attendees when he gives them choreography. When he gives the boys, for instance, a special piece of choreography, what gets a child chosen to be on stage?  Does he want them to make that choreography “their own” or to perform it exactly as he has shown them to dance it? Here’s what he said:

“I’m looking for individuality. I’m looking for them to show me something different in the movement that I haven’t seen in all the other kids. Just because you are going up on stage doesn’t mean squat. It might mean I saw you do something well, but I’m not always looking for the kid that does something perfect as a ballet dancer. Sometimes I’m looking for the kid who is learning the most, who is challenging themselves the most, and that isn’t always the person who knows ballet technique the best. I want to see someone who is stretching their learning curve, and that doesn’t always come from the person who can do perfect ballet technique.

“I bring people on stage that has different skills. One might be able to turn, one might have a great leap, one might be able to do the move and phrasing in a unique way. Each dancer has something special, but it’s not just about who gets up on stage, and that’s what I want them to see.”

Duncan stressed that while being in a room full of great dancers and working with new and inspiring teachers represents the upside to conventions, the downside consists of the plastic trophies and the competition to get chosen to be on stage. “That’s not ultimately what it’s about. Your trophy isn’t going to do you any good when you go to an audition. They’re not going to say, ‘Oh, you were the gold winner at New York City Dance Alliance.’ They don’t know who you are when you are at an audition for a Broadway show,” he said. Thus, young dancers – male or female – need to learn to interpret what goes on at a convention in a different manner, to see it in a different way, and to not let any part of the convention discourage them.

As for making the choreography your own, if the instructor says to do so, go for it! “If I say to make the choreography your own, you self-discover yourself,” Duncan stated. “Show me what makes you unique within the choreography. Don’t be afraid to step up and fail. Screw the choreography up. Sometimes you have to do that to get it. Stop trying to be perfect and please the teacher. Sometimes you try to please the choreographer or teacher so hard that you actually do a disservice to yourself. You are pleasing yourself. You need to be in the moment and work with that.”

Duncan described how the director at San Francisco Ballet would offer him tips when he was working on a turn, and the turn would get worse rather than better. “I was thinking he had the ultimate answer and not relying on what I know I feel when I do the turn. He wasn’t in my body. He didn’t ultimately know where my balance is. He could give me some clues to get there. That’s why I tell kids, ‘I’m not trying to get you to bake a new cake; I’m just adding some frosting to it.’ So don’t screw up what makes you great. Don’t lose your self identity as a dancer.”

Advice for Young Male Dancers Who Find the Road a Tough One to Hoe

For all those young male dancers out there, like my son, who constantly are faced with tough choices – sports or dance, conforming or being different, summer dance intensive or summer camp, fight or walk away when teased, Duncan had some words of wisdom to offer.

“That’s life. It’s hard. They’re feeling like, ‘I’m different than all the other kids.’ Often they are all taught to wear the same clothes – what’s trendy and cool. The down side to that is that the most beautiful thing is your uniqueness as an individual and as an artist. That’s a great thing. Do what you want to do. You don’t have to follow what rest of flock is doing. Be a male ballet dancer. Who cares what those other guys think? Do what you love; that’s a good thing. Don’t conform and confine, obviously within the constraints of what is good for you. If you want something in life, put yourself out there and go get it. I wish I had heard that more as a kid. But it’s not easy.

Duncan has faced some difficult issues and decisions as a male dancer as well. “I found having three knee surgeries by 21 years old hard. I thought I was the be all and end all, and I thought I’d be dancing for the rest of my life, and all of a sudden it was being taken away from me…That was very humbling,” he confided.

Additionally, he said, “It was difficult for me, because I was an African American dancer. As I got older I began to see that the image of a ballet dancer was European…This goes back to ‘I don’t look like everyone else,’ so now I’m not going to get the part. No, you don’t’ look like everybody else, because you’re unique. Or maybe that’s when I was a kid and I got beat up in school because I danced ballet. How does one deal with that? I ran to school every day. You can roll up in a ball and cry or you can get over it and move on.”

The fact that life is hard – maybe harder for male dancers (even though the girls tend to think it’s easier for the boys) – actually can become an asset. “If anything is easy in life then you probably won’t be the best at it, and you probably won’t know how to deal with things when things get tough. That’s big lesson to learn,” said Duncan.

‘Everybody is going to have their own set of challenges,” he says. When my son – or yours – finds himself in a room filled with kids who are all better dancer, without mom or dad to help him anymore, denied all the roles he thought he would – or should – be given, Duncan concludes, “That’s when he’ll find out what he’s made of.” That’s when knowing how to deal with life being hard (and not rushing) will come in handy.

With the Second Stage show put to bed, Teen Dance Company has turned its attention to choreography for its big show, the spring Concert, which will be it’s 10-year anniversary event. The kids spent six hours in the studio on Sunday this past weekend working on their first piece of choreography. Each of the 4-5 numbers will be about 30 minutes in length.  Julian said the choreography, created on the spot by Mark Foehringer, was difficult, fun and inspired.

Julian told me today that he felt badly for “hurting” a fellow dancer — another girl — during the last Second Stage performance. Seems some mishap happened during where his interaction with her caused her to hurt her ankle or leg. He didn’t actually lift her, but she sort of runs into him and he pushes her away, and he pushed her a bit too hard…or something like that. I guess it’s a learning experience. Boys do need to learn how to “handle” the girls with whom they partner, and they need to develop some finesse. I guess he’s still developing that! 

I’ve been enjoying working on an article about several teen dance companies (generic term used here). It’s interesting to see how some of them are being run and what they offer…It’s nice not to be so absorbed in the workings of just one company.

The Nutcracker production put on by San Jose Dance Theater, which featured my son, Julian, as both Fritz and one of the two Russian dancers, has closed its curtains until next year. Yes, while others gear up, we’ve cleared the stage for the next production, put on by Ballet San Jose’s professional company (sorry friends, Julian won’t be in that one this year…) at the same venue, The Center for Performing Arts in downtown San Jose. That said, SJDT’s Nutcracker was a resounding success, and, given that it’s the first time I’ve seen it, I was totally impressed. Really!

This production features mostly local youth dancers and four professionals: Sarah Spradlin-Bonomo and Chris Bonomo, a husband-and-wife team that do amazing lifts and partnering; Maximo Roman Califano, a Ballet San Jose company member;  and Liesl Coffin, a teacher at Los Gatos Ballet. Marcie Ryken, the production’s artistic director, runs Los Gatos Ballet. It also had a few adults as the parents in the party scene and such. By the way, the father of one of the dancer’s played Drosselmeyer, and he was, by far, the best Drosselmeyer I’ve ever seen! In any case, the sets were beautiful and totally professional. The costumes were fabulous,  and the dancing impeccable and as professional as humanly possible with children aged 5-18. (They call the kids they put together for the SJDT Nutcracker a pre-professional company…)

Of particular note, a girl we know played the lead in the Arabian dance  on the night we watched and partnered with Califano. I was so very impressed with her ability to partner with him, which must have been a bit intimidating as well as exciting. (As a mother, I was watching her in that skimpy outfit with his hands on her body…but that’s a fact of a female dancer’s life. I just wondered if she felt uncomfortable…) She did as well as any professional dancer. Of course, if your going to partner and leap into a dancer’s arms, you want to do it with a professional your first time. Then you can be confident of being caught and having your turns go well.

As for Julian, he looked great! He managed to land his flip in the Russian dance every time but one out of five performances. And he did land it that last matinee on Sunday, but ended up with his hands on the ground briefly. Chalk it up to being tired. All his other turns and leaps looked great, and he had a super time. He did a superb acting job during the party scene, although I told him he really didn’t have to act at all – he just had to be himself: a pain in the ass. He was very funny being a holy terror and annoying everyone in sight as Fritz.

He said he enjoyed it enough – and made some good friends (and the girls, of course, loved him) – to give up all his weekends between September and December  next year again.

Anyway, Julian had a great time in the Nutcracker. His dancing improved by working with Marcie, and he plans to try and take her Wednesday afternoon ballet class so he can keep on benefiting from having her as a teacher. He learned a few new skills, like that flip. He also learned to partner, after asking Chris Bonomo to teach him how. (As I said, Chris is an awsome partner. His wife has to be thrilled each time she does a turn or is lifted. He lifts her like she weighs nothing at all. And he was more than happy to offer a few lessons to my son.)

Additionally, Julian also learned how he does not ever want to act to younger dancers after one professional dancer treated him with disdain. 

He also made a ton of new friends (girls and boys) and left a few hearts broken. His phone now buzzes with text messages even more frequently than before. I see him being tagged in photo after photo on FaceBook, and he’s always the one boy among about six or seven girls in tutus.

Overall, therefore, I’d say the Nutcracker 2008 was a success all the way around – at least for Julian. And I thoroughly enjoyed watching it.

(Also, given that we had a boy, we really weren’t asked to do much work either! A few hours of Ron being a security guard and that was it! That’s a benefit to having a boy who dances!)

One last note: I did ask Julian after the Friday night performance if he would consider giving the other boys a scoop and swoop lesson, which they really could have used. However, he flatly refused to do so. “Mom, do you really want them to think I’m looking there? Am I supposed to say to them, ‘Hey, I was looking at your crotch (he used other words) and noticed that you don’t have them packaged up correctly. Here let me show you how to do it?’ I don’t think so!’” I guess that just wouldn’t be okay. Ah…if only they had had a great teacher to offer them the manly secrets of how to use a dance belt… I guess the boys just won’t teach each other.

I just received the December issue of Dance Spirit Magazine, and I found myself intrigued and just a bit outraged by an articled titled “Who Needs Him Anyway, A Close Look at All-Girl Partnering.” I showed it to Julian, who stuck out his lower lip in a big pout of dismay.

While at Ballet San Jose School he was too short to do much partnering. He’s finally getting tall enough at 5′4″ to possibly partner some of the girls at Teen Dance Company this year. So, the though of a trend towards girl-girl partnering was a bit depressing to him, to say the least.

The article discusses the fact that this a more modern approach to partnering:

“Traditional male/female partnering fits into stereotyped gender roles, where the woman is light and delicate, and the man is strong and powerful. Unfortunately, this is the 21st century, where girls can play soccer or cheerleader, be a science wiz or a homecoming queen. Same-sex partnering melts the traditional mold into something cool and current, where girls can be strong and beautiful at once.”

Okay, so that is true; I admit it. And at TDC, there is same-sex partnering going on…out of necessity. They’ve only got two boys. But still…as the mother of a male dancer, I’m going to take a stand and say, “I like opposite-sex partnering.” Call me traditional if you will. It’s romantic. It’s beautiful.

That said, I don’t mind the modern and contemporary choreography that uses both. But let’s not push for same-sex partnering. (Not that this article did, by any means. I’m being a bit over-reactive.)

I will say that the article had some good advice on using the legs in a plie when partnering, especially when lifting or catching flying bodies. And it discussed emotional differences, which are definitely there between the opposite sexes as well. Therefore, the article does have some good advice even for boys. I might mention, it does not talk about same-sex partnering as boy-boy….just girl-girl. Interesting.

You might find the cover story of Dance Spirit interesting as well. It’s about hoofer Dominique Kelley. He has become very successful not just by tapping but by using all his dance skills. Seems he’s a pretty well rounded dancer. At Ballet San Jose School we used to get mixed messages. Dennis Nahat told me in an interview for my book on mentoring boys that a dancer with some additional skills, even the ability to tap, was a more valuable company member. Yet, he and ballet mistress Lise LaCour both said that at some point Julian would have to give up tap and all other forms of dance he was studying and focus on ballet if that was the dance form he wanted to pursue. When I said he wanted to take more jazz this year and asked for time off to do that, LaCour refused. She didn’t think it would make him a stronger ballet dancer. (Well, you should see his muscle tone after three months of modern, contemporary, jazz, tap, and ballet – not to mention Pilates.) Anyway, that’s when we took a hike to TDC. Back to the point: Kelley seems to be living proof that being a jack of all trades gets you work. He’s been around the world as a tapper on tour at the age of 12, been in movies, on Broadway, and so much more…and not just tapping his way from gig to gig either.

So, I won’t be encouraging Julian to focus only on one form of dance any time soon. I do think it’s great to find one area you want to be really great at, and to let the other areas be your “lesser” forms. But, by all means, learn them all and be good at them. It seems to me that that is the way to a busy (which means successful) dance career.