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This past week I received a comment here on this blog from a mother who fears her daughter will have to drop off her dance team due to the fact that the family has encountered some financial hardships this year. The economic recession has been tough on many people. We’ve felt it, too. My husband’s business has just been sold and, although he has consulting work for a few months, we don’t know what the future will hold work-wise for him after that either.

This mother asked me if I knew of any dance scholarships or grants for which she could apply to help pay for her daughter’s dance fees. She’d already fallen behind in payments and feared she would soon be asked to pay up or remove her daughter from the team. I don’t personally know of any scholarships or grants for dancers in financial need. However, I think it would be super to provide a list of this type of resource. Not only are there many kids in the same financial straights right now as this little girl, but there are other children who would love to dance more seriously but who can’t afford to do so. (Those of us with boys often find them being offered scholarships…or given them if we ask. Girls aren’t so lucky.)

So, if you know of any such financial resources for dancers, please post them here as comments. That way dancers who need financial help will be able to seek it out in the appropriate places. If you send me enough resources, I’ll compile them into a blog post.

Thanks!

We’re back from The Pulse. Julian is tired, happy to have danced with some great choreographers and to have learned some cool choreography, and a bit disappointed not to have won a scholarship of any sort. I know…I know. The scholarship isn’t important. Tell that to Julian. He had several choreographers talk to him and tell him he was doing a good job, but no real “recognition.” To him that means he isn’t yet good enough.

I attended all of Saturday’s classes and the last class on Sunday. So, while I could only relate what Julian told me after the Nuvo convention, this time I actually analyzed a bit of what was going on when it came to choreography and how the kids interpreted it or “copied” it, and how they were, indeed, getting recognized. And now I can tell you what I think…or what questions came up for me…for whatever that is worth.

First, let me say, that there were some pretty awesome dancers there, especially when it came to the boys. Saturday was almost totally focused on hip hop classes. I thought some of these boys would disappear on Sunday, which seemed mostly focused on contemporary, but when I go there for the last class most of the boys were still in attendance. And most of them were just as good at contemporary as they had been at hip hop. (They did combine the advanced and pro class for that last class that I watched, because they were short one teacher; Mia Michaels was sick and didn’t show. I guess Julian is destined not to dance with her. Instead they had Brian Friedman for a second class.)

So, here’s what I noticed: First, according to Julian and from what I heard while I was in the room, at this convention all the teachers told the attendees to make the dance “their own.” That makes the question from my last post mute. And it gave the kids the freedom to learn the dance and then go beyond the basic movements. Most of the kids, however, did the choreography pretty much as taught. The difference between how one dancer did it and another and who got put on state and who didn’t (and who got scholarships and who didn’t) seemed to me to come down to the amount of energy, feeling, accuracy, and precision in the movements. The kids made it their own not so much through interpretation that changed the choreography in any way but in how much they bent their knees, how much emotion was portrayed in the movement of a head or hand, how quickly their torso moved, etc.

As I watched them move, and as I watched Julian, a question arose in my mind: Is it possible that a boy’s dancing  (or a girl’s) can be inhibited by their developmental stage at any given time? I think the answer is a resounding “yes.” And here’s why.

Let’s take a simple example first. One of the first dances the kids did on Saturday was to a song that was very sexual in nature. It was all about taking a girl home and having her do to the guy what he normally did to her. While the choreography could be done by anyone, the kids who performed it best, did so in a very sexual manner. They had the pelvic thrusts and the sways of the hips and the movements of the hands down the body down to a sexy art. (It’s a bit appalling actually to think that 14 and 15 year olds know how to dance this way…The room was filled with 14-18 year olds.)  More to the point, if a 14 or 15 year old (or 16 or 17 year old) doesn’t have the developmental wherewithal to know how to dance that way — to drum up the feeling to dance that way, they aren’t going to carry off the choreography well. Their performance is going to be missing something that a boy who maybe has had a sexual experience, or whose hormones make him feel sexual or sexy, or who has watched a lot of movies with sex scenes, or who simply is older and can relate to the words of the song will have.  Their movements will belie their knowledge, understanding and depth of feeling, while the other boys movements will be lacking. And I definitely saw some that were lacking in that way…and some that were not.

A less simple example comes when you have a kid whose developmental stage makes him insecure. Take your average freshman in high school, who is trying to fit in, find himself, and discover even a small sense of self-esteem.  The lack of these things will show in their dancing despite any superb technique or ability to mimic choreography or even make it their own. Their performance just won’t be as strong; it will wreak of all those insecurities they carry with them all day long, even if they feel fairly secure on the dance floor. Wherever they carry that insecurity — in their upper bodies, in their arms, in their shoulders — that’s where you’re going to see their dancing falling short and looking weak.

All this to say that the dancers I saw really “hitting it” at the convention seemed to have a maturity about them, a strong sense of self and a confidence that allowed them to carry out the choreography in a way that made you notice them. They were not only really going for it and making sure they got noticed, they were putting their heart and soul into the movements with a true sense of self.

This all became clear to me during the question and answer session. Someone asked what the choreographers looked for when dancers audition for parts in shows. Two choreographers responded. Tyce Diorio said something along these lines: “I look for people who are real individuals.” From this I took him to mean that that sense of individuality and strong sense of self comes through in their dancing.

Laurieann said, “Spirit is like a muscle, and you have to exercise it every day.” As she elaborated on this, what I took away was that as you exercise your spirit, strengthening your ability to bring your spirit forth in your dance (which means bringing more of yourself through your dance), you become a better and more unique dancer.

Both of these pieces of advice require confidence and a strong sense of self. (They don’t require a big ego; in fact, a large ego is usually a symptom of insecurity.) And many young dancers — boys and girls alike — are still trying to find their individuality, struggling against the pressure to conform in order to fit in, and their spirit. Thus, they may not have these qualities yet. They have to find their individuality; they have to know who they are, be okay with themselves, feel good about who they are even if they don’t fit in, even if they are different. They have to like — love — themselves. And then they have to dance in a way that expresses who they are.

I think Julian’s stuck in a developmental stage right now that isn’t helping his dancing. I suggested he go into the studio alone with his music and “find himself.” Actually, during the question and answer session someone asked if dance class or time spent dancing alone benefited a dancer’s education more.  I believe Wade Robson said, “Both are beneficial.” Julian doesn’t spend much time dancing alone.

Now, I’m not sure that dancing alone will help Julian find himself in school or socially, but it’s a start. One area at a time.

And for every boy that is still struggling to find himself, I wonder if the same advice doesn’t apply: Be an individual. Exercise your spirit muscle.  Go into the studio alone and find yourself.

Things are gearing up again. Julian has been practicing an old routine of his from a few years ago called “Hats” for solo studio performance on Thursday. We didn’t realize that he could actually perform in this event, so he didn’t prepare a solo. (We’ll know for next year.) So, he pulled out his very-successful piece, choreographed by ReMinD, otherwise known as Aristan Rinpoyla. When Julian competed this number, he won lots of awards for the unique choreography which is a bit like the movie “Mask;” each time he puts on a new hat, he dances a different type of hip hop.

While those who make the decisions about who performs what at the studio weren’t too keen on Julian doing a hip hop routine, they actually found the choreography “entertaining,” and allowed it into the show. Another point for ReMinD!  Julian has since been trying to get the piece back up to performance level. I’m not sure it will be quite there with just 2 weeks of sporadic rehearsals, but it will be okay.

Tomorrow, he begins rehearsals for Copellia with Los Gatos Ballet. Since tech rehearsals for this productin were in close conflict with Teen Dance Company’s concert tech week, we were afraid he wouldn’t get to do the performance. However, he’s been allowed to do it with the caveat that if his school work starts affecting attendance at TDC, he has to drop out of Copellia.

His grades are getting a bit better, I’m happy to say, and he’s only missed one assignment in 3 weeks or so. However, his honors English grade is in the basement (and that’s putting it really nicely). We’re hoping he brings it up so he doesn’t have to attend summer school. If that happens, he can kiss his ABT summer intensive scholarship and experience goodbye. That would be a shame.

This weekend he is off to The Pulse to dance with the choreographers of So You Think You Can Dance. He’s excited about that. Although he does get to work with Mandy Moore occasionally, and she isn’t with The Pulse, he hasn’t worked with Tyce Diorio, Mia Michaels, Shane Sparks, Brian Friedman, or Wade Robson before.

I’m hoping to get to the convention to watch as well, since I’d like to see these people operate myself. However, my daughter has a synchronized swimming meet on Sunday…Can’t ever be on a different day, can it?…so I’m going to miss a few of these choreographers in action. I’m sure Julian will have a blast, though.

I recently was asked to write a short sidebar on how to get boys into the dance studio and keep them there.  (The piece will appear in an upcoming issue of Dance Teacher magazine.) One of the things I stressed was that studios should offer free or discounted classes for boys, as well as scholarships. Additionally, of course, they should offer boys-only classes.

I just found this article on Boys and Ballet about the Oregon Ballet Academy. They offered a free class for boys.

The boys comment on what they do together in class – things likes jumps and push ups. They say it’s like a work out in the gym. You know, boy stuff. Of course, they also learn to lift and turn the girls and make them look good.

The result:  The Oregon Ballet Company’s Nutcracker ended up with 20 boys in the Russian dance this past year!

I hate to say “I told you so,” but….I told you so!

Okay, some of you may find this post doesn’t live up to its great title, but I just couldn’t resist after saying that’s what I would write about next! Anyway, here’s the dirt: Julian, much to his dismay, has to wear booty shorts for one of his pieces of choreography during the three performances his company will give this weekend during their show.

He’s never worn booty shorts before. He has flat out refused to have a pair and has had nothing nice to say about them. In other words, booty shorts are not his favorite piece of dance attire.

Let’s put it this way: He likes dance belts better. In fact, I bought him a new brand of dance belt made out of a cotton blend and with a bit wider strap up the buttocks (or booty…if you look up the definition of the word), and he told me that it was “comfy.” He wouldn’t say that about booty shorts. In fact, here’s what he had to say about the borrowed pair he is wearing (he refused to let me buy him a pair of his own — he won’t own a pair): “They are uncomfortable, ride up my butt, make me feel naked, and I hate them.”

That said, it doesn’t matter how he feels about them — or in them, for that matter — he’ll be wearing them this weekend in one number performed three times. And I’ll get to see just how cute he looks in them. (Now, I have to ‘fess up that tonight — actually after I had already posted this — he came home and admitted they were “comfortable.” So, just like a dance belt, I guess he has gotten used to them. Next thing you know, we’ll be buying a pair…Just you wait and see.)

On another subject, he has decided to give up summer camp to go to American Ballet Theatre’s summer dance intensive. That was really a no brainer. Now I just have to figure out how to afford it and where we will stay. The 25% scholarship, which I have been told should be relished since any ABT scholarships are not given out freely, helps but is not nearly enough to make this affordable. Of course, being the good dance mom that I am, I will make this happen.

I did, however, go through a very bad (and probably perimenopausal hormonal day) feeling terrible that my husband and I messed around with Julian’s summer plans by ever even suggesting that he audition for ABT’s summer intensive. I was crying and depressed and feeling horrible about putting him in a position of having to choose between one last year of summer camp with his friends and this dance program. (Now, of course, I had told my husband not long ago that the money spent on summer camp would buy a lot of dancing, and Julian would be better off dancing, but I still felt terrible that he had to choose between the two.) 

Julian was very brave and adult about it, and said that maybe the reason he missed so much of camp last year (when he was sick) was to make it easier this year to make this choice. I guess my “there must be a reason for everything” attitude really has rubbed off on him! We decided that he probably doesn’t feel quite as attached or connected to those friends since he spent only two weeks with them rather than four, and that did, indeed, make it a bit easier to decide on ABT rather than camp. He, himself, did say that camp was “just a small bit of time” compared to ABT, which would “affect his whole life.” Now…camp does affect him considerably, but ABT will change his attitudes, perfect his dancing, open his eyes to the dance opportunities available to him — and to the world of other male dancers out there.

Also, in another year or two, he might not make it into the ABT summer intensive. Ballet is not his primary focus, and as these boys get older, the competition for getting into this program (or any program) gets tougher. He’ll be auditioning in another age group in two years. Even next year, there’s no gaurantee that he would once again get selected for New York. So, he said, “I better go now.”

Which means I’ll probably be going, too. I used to work in Manhattan. I’m kind of looking forward to it!

Next post: More Opportunities Julian Can’t Take Advantage Of…

We thought Julian had his summer all planned out: Back to Jewish camp for four weeks, something he had his heart set on, especially after missing almost half of his session last year when he came down with what was later diagnosed as Relapsing Fever. This was to be his last summer not spent focusing on dance. He’d keep taking dance classes after that at Teen Dance Company and participate in their summer intensive.

Right.

But we, his parents, couldn’t leave well enough alone. We kept thinking, “He should be dancing,” and we decided he should at least audition for some summer programs so he could (1) see what the auditions were like, and (2) see how he fared against the other dancers — in particular the boys. So, we planned on taking him to two auditions, one for Alonzo King’s Lines Ballet, a contemporary company with which he’d really like to get involved, and American Ballet Theatre, which offers programs in several places around the country, including Irving, CA (where we thought he might get in even though it was for “advanced” students) and New York City (their premier program that includes classes specifically for boys).

Well, we couldn’t get to the Lines audition, because Julian had rehearsals that day for his upcoming Second Stage show at Teen Dance Company. We had to reschedule for next month. We did make it to the ABT audition, though, along with four other boys and about 86 girls. A week later, we got an email: Julian had been accepted into the NYC program and awarded a 25% merit scholarship. We couldn’t believe it. We didn’t know if he’d even get into Irvine, but he’d also put NYC down as his first choice on the application. Ultimately, ABT makes the decision about where you are placed, however.

Now our world has turned upside down. To go to camp or to NYC, that is the question.

In a very mature fashion — and with fellow ballet dancers telling him they’ll “kill him if he doesn’t go,” Julian says he thinks he will pass on camp and take advantage of this opportunity. Camp is just a fleeting four weeks never to be repeated again. ABT summer intensive will make him a better dancer for life. But…we have to figure out if we can afford it (Even with the scholarship it is expensive, and we have to add in airline tickets, housing — not provided, food, etc.), where we will stay, how he will be chaperoned, if my daughter can do without me for six weeks (since I’ll be chaperoning), if my daughter can get her driver’s license by then (since she will need to get to her summer internship every day), and, oh, so many more logistics. Not to mention that my husband could be without a job at that point…

Well, it’s all very exciting and nerve wracking. And we are so surprised, and Julian feels very fortunate. His ballet teacher, Mark Foehringer, says that this is exactly what he needs, because it is a formal program (which does seem to have classes in a variety of dance styles, by the way, including yoga and how to prevent injury) and offers him a chance to be in a boys’ class with at least 35 other excellent male dancers. This will push him, I’m sure, to be better. Boys thrive on being with other boys and competing with them. Julian has never been in a class with more than three other boys at a time, I don’t think.

You might wonder why he has chosen a ballet program, when he has said he doesn’t want to be a ballet dancer. He knows that ballet remains the foundation of all the types of dance he wants to do, and contemporary is high on his list. Plus, he says that if he can’t get a job in another style of dance, he’d like to be able to apply for a job in a ballet company. Not a bad strategy, I don’t think. I’m not sure if it’s possible to take that route, but I guess we’ll find out.

All that said, poor Julian is again faced with another choice to make. We keep telling him choices are a good thing, but to him it’s always about giving up one thing he wants for another thing he wants, which means missing out on something. In this case, giving up camp means giving up being with the group of friends that has always accepted him. He’s always felt comfortable with them and like he could be himself — even though he was a dancer. He’s never had that anywhere else. He has it with a few friends now in high school, but camp was always his safe haven from the turmoil of social life at school.

However, as a mother I can say that when I see him with other dancers, such as at the ABT audition, that’s when he’s really in his element and most comfortable. That’s when he’s “Julian” through and through.  Not surprising really.

We have to decide soon what he will do. I”ll keep you posted. And take my advice, leave well enough alone unless you are willing to deal with the ramifications!

Check here for my next blog post on Julian’s adventures wearing bootie shorts — his worst nightmare becomes a reality!

Sorry for the lapse in blog posts. I’ve been sick on and off for about two weeks now. My husband had a cough. Then Julian got stuffed up. Then I came down with a fever and a rash and about five days later a full blown cold. Now my daughter has it, too.  Anyway, the new year at our house started out with a bunch of germs rather than a bang.

It also, however, started out with another performance opportunity for Julian. He’s been asked by the director of Los Gatos Ballet, who also directed the San Jose Dance Theater Nutcracker performance in which he performed, to be in a production of Copellia. I guess Marcie Ryken liked his performance enough to want him in her next production. Julian is happy to go back and dance with the lovely girls at LGB.

Not only that, he’s going to be taking class from, Maximo Califano, a principal dancer with Ballet San Jose. It seems Marcie has asked him to teach a pas de deux class on Monday nights, and she has asked Julian to come take this class — free of charge. Well, she does need someone to partner with the girls, after all. I’ve been told Maximo can be quite charming as a teacher — at least to the women, but Julian has found him less than charming to work with in productions. We’ll see how he behaves to Julian in class.

Now, Julian being in this production of Copellia is dependent upon Teen Dance Company saying it is okay for him to have a technical rehearsal and a performance on the Thursday and Friday just before the technical rehearsal week of their big end of the year production. We are still waiting for their decision… I hate not being able to make decisions for ourselves.

Then there are the summer activity decisions. Julian insists he wants to go back to his Jewish summer camp one last time, especially since last year his illness caused him to miss half the session. That’s a whole month of the summer gone — no dancing. Well, actually, the session he will be attending is an arts session, and he could dance if he wanted to.  While we really don’t have the money this year for camp (although we are going to find some way to pay for it, I guess.) let alone a dance intensive, we took him this past weekend to San Francisco to audition for the American Ballet Theatre summer intensive, which is held in a variety of cities. Attending is totally dependant upon him getting a scholarship. Also, if he by some chance was chosen to go to New York, which is doubtful since it’s their premier program, he couldn’t go to his camp. If he was selected to go to Southern California, he’ll miss the summer intensive at Teen Dance Company and its auditions, not to mention the first audition for a piece of choreography.

Oh, the choices these young kids have to make…or worry about making before they even know if the choices are viable.

Julian is also going to audition for Alonzo King’s Lines Ballet and San Francisco Conservatory of Dance summer intensive programs, although, again, we attending may be totally dependent upon being offered a scholarship. We figure the audition process is worth going through, and it will be interesting to simply see if he makes it into any of the programs, where he is placed if he does get chosen, and if he does qualify for a merit scholarship. Then, he can choose…or not.

I hate the fact that kids have to make so many choices, and that so many things seem to overlap. I always seem to have something going on at the same time that that one or both of my kids have some big event happening. It’s amazing really, how often that happens. It’s like some Ultimate schedule coordinator just likes to see me get frustrated about the things I can’t do and the choices I have to make. And If I get frustrated, imagine our kids making similar decisions and choices when faced with the same types of schedule conflicts.

He did enjoy the audition, though. There were 86 girls and 5 boys. He said he had fun. He wasn’t stressed at all. He knew several of the girls and made friends with one of the boys — the one he said seemed like the most serious dancer. It was fun to see him there looking so much in his element with the other dancers. I think he never feels that comfortable or that much like himself anywhere other than at a dance studio filled with other dancers. It makes me wish he’d gone to a performing arts school, although the closest one is in San Francisco, almost an hour and a half away.

We had to get two letters of recommendation for the audition and show up with a head shot and a photo of him in a particular ballet position. We also brought a resume of his experience, even though they didn’t ask for it. They’ll let us know in a week if he made it into a program.

On another note, we are on a major search for ballet tights that fit. The ones Julian has been wearing for a year, which we order from Discount Dance Wear’s catalogue, no longer fit him correctly. So…we have to find some other ones somewhere. We’ve already had these other ones shipped to us in two different sizes, and no I have to start from scratch. He’s down to just one pair of tights at the moment.

If anyone has leads on good boys ballet tights (the kind that go over the foot), please send along the information! Post your comments after this blog so everyone else can see the links and information as well. It’s so hard to find dance wear for boys, as we all know.

On that note, if you haven’t noticed, I have not upped the price on my daughter’s T-shirts for boys yet. So, take advantage of the fact that they are still being offered at a reduced cost.

I don’t know about anyone else, but Julian’s dance costs are eating us alive. Two years ago, we really got in over our heads. Julian had two competition numbers on top of his regular classes, and he was competing as an independent, which means we were unaffiliated with a studio. This also meant that every time we wanted him to rehearse we had to pay for rehearsal time with a professional and for studio time. One of his teachers cost us $100 an hour for rehearsals/lessons!  That got really expensive when it turned out he needed time every week to prepare for his upcoming competitions. (And he hated having me be his rehearsal supervisor the rest of the time, but I said, “Tough you know what. I’m free.”) Along with some other expenses we had that year, we got into debt big time.

This year, I’m afraid his dance fees will send us to the poor house. Teen Dance Company (TDC) is not cheap, let me tell you, and it’s real sticker shock after Ballet San Jose School (even without a scholarship). Then there are the fees for the jazz classes he takes on his “off” days, not to mention an extra conventions (The Pulse). We had to cancel his private tap lessons. And I work as a freelancer, so I never know how much money I’ll be making, and paying his bills seems to depend on my income, especially since we’re still paying off all those hospital, doctor and lab bills from his summer illness. (If you know of anyone needing a nonfiction book edited, send them my way…)

Now I’m not even talking about (well…I guess I am) the additional costs for his sister’s art lessons and synchronized swimming team. Between the two of them, we spend well over $1000 a month. That’s disposable income we don’t even have! So, when someone asks my husband or me what we do for fun, I reply, “We don’t have fun. Our kids do!” And that’s the truth. Back to the point…

I have discovered that in some cases, studios are very happy to do whatever it takes to get boys into their classes. We were pleased to have a 50 percent scholarship at Ballet San Jose School for three years; they wanted and needed boys in the school. We were pleased to discover a studio in San Jose, Nor Cal Dance arts, that offered a 50 percent discount on classes – any classes – to boys. Unfortunately, Julian wasn’t able to take many classes there, although I was impressed with some of the teachers.  So, it’s worth asking if a studio will offer your son a scholarship, or if they offer discounts for male dancers.

In a recent article in the New York Times, Peter Martins, ballet master in chief of New York City Ballet and chairman of faculty at the School of American Ballet, talked about actually allowing boys into his program for free so he’d have enough boys to fill a class. Here’s what the article said:

For the 2007-8 year the children’s division accepted 46 percent of boys and 22 percent of girls who auditioned. The program waives tuition for all boys older than 7 while they are in the children’s division, no questions asked. It’s an offer not available to the more abundant crop of girls.

I think the ballet world tends to more inclined to offer free and discounted rates for boys, however, than general studios. When Julian was on a dance team at a local studio, we were unable to get any sort of discount. And now that he is with TDC, we were unable to obtain a scholarship. TDC is a non-profit corporation, funded by individual donations, grants from private foundations and ticket sales, so I guess their money tends to be tight. They only give scholarships when they have a really big company, and right now it’s pretty small.

I’ve been disappointed to find that more studios don’t offer discounts for boys. They complain that they don’t have enough boys and they can’t attract boys to their studios, but they aren’t willing to really go out of their way to get them in the door. I suppose they aren’t willing to put money behind their desire to get them in the door.

That’s really pretty unfortunate, but when it’s all said and done, we mom’s with boys who dance really need to find the best studio and the best teachers for our boys. So, in the end it doesn’t really come down to the money at all. If it did, I wouldn’t be spending the outrageous amount I’m now spending for Julian to be with TDC. It sure would be nice to find a studio that wants to discount the rate for boys or offer a great scholarship and provide them with a top-notch dance education.

It is my understanding that many colleges will provide male dancers with great scholarships – sometimes close to a full ride. They really do want the boys in their dance programs, and they are willing to put money behind that desire. So, as my husband puts it, we are investing in our son’s college education now. We may not be putting any money “away” into his college fund, but we are, indeed, investing towards his college education every day, every month. Just look at our checkbook and you’ll see…